Workout Criteria

So in case you don’t stalk my Instagram yet (follow me @flabbutfab) I will let you in on a little secret. I am kind of a gym rat. I have always wanted to be one of those people who could workout in their garage, but I just can’t. I have tried the at home thing and we have sunk way too much money into weights, a treadmill, and lots of DVD’s that are all collecting dust in our garage.


Messy Garage


Womp. Womp.

I have finally realized that I just need to share my bubbly adorable personality with the world so essentially working out at home would be a disservice to others.

While I have literally ALWAYS struggled with my weight, I have really never struggled with my fitness. I love to try new workouts, and I can pretty much hang with most programs. Well, except for sticking to only 1.

Over the years I have tried whatever was the newest and shiniest trend. From this I was able to figure out my niche exercise wise and there are definitely some non fitness factors that play into where I ended up working out these days.

There is of course the social aspect. I’m not looking to find my next bestie at the gym but I also don’t want the person next to me to be so balls to the wall that I don’t feel comfortable cracking a joke. I just want a place with good energy and people who don’t take themselves too seriously.

Obvi it needs to be clean, and have ample parking. Now with the kiddos, childcare is a definite plus. Finally, I am a class gal. I love a good fitness class and I am 1,000x more likely to hit the gym if there is a class or a trainer waiting for my. Mama needs some accountability.

What do you look for in a gym?

Until next time,


It’s beginning to look a lot like Summer!

Good Morning!

I hope you all had an awesome weekend. Even though the boys have three more days of school, it is basically summer time in these parts. On Friday I met up with my friend Gina for lunch. We went to Mitch’s in Point Loma. The place is SO good and right on the water. The smell of the ocean, and watching the tourists made me feel  like I was temporary plucked out of reality, and into Michelada heaven!




Saturday was karate, Costco, closing day of baseball,


Little League


more fish tacos,


Snack Shack Fish Tacos


and swimming at grandma’s.


Pool Time


On Sunday the kid’s school held an end of the year party on the bay. It was great to see the kiddos having so much fun outside. (Not pictured, yet again tacos for lunch!)

Sunday night was the usual. Laundry, cooking, getting ready for the week.

Are you feeling the Summer vibe yet? Any fun plans coming up in the next few months?

If you haven’t entered the giveaway for 4 free tickets to the San Diego International Boat Show, click HERE and leave a comment to enter. The winner will be announced on Friday!

Until next time,


Namaste home no more!

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Hey! Happy Hump Day! I hope you are enjoying this beautiful weather. My oldest son had two teeth pulled today and they had to sedate him so we’ve been chillaxing around the house. Tonight I am going to hit up yoga class so I thought this would be a good opportunity to share this post.

So a few months ago I blogged about how at a yoga class the front desk clerk thought that I was pregnant. I laughed it off because I really didn’t think I looked pregnant and it’s a super ignorant thing to assume unless I am literally crowning in your face. I don’t even know if then you should even say anything?!?

I digress.

Last week a girlfriend invited me back to the same studio for yoga. That’s when it dawned on me that I had not been back there since the “Incident.” I actually wore a sweatshirt when I checked in and walked past the front desk before we could chit chat.

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When I got about half way through the class I remembered how much I enjoyed it and how good I felt. I realized that it did affect me on a deeper level than I realized. I think I was afraid to go back and have it happen again. I was so mad at myself for letting some d-bag keep me from coming to class for 3 months.

This reminded me of the power of people’s words and how much they can affect others. I have a tendency to say what is on my mind, when it’s on my mind even if my opinion wasn’t necessarily solicited.

I too need to be more cognizant of the things I say to others, and try to be more like a duck and let the things assholes say to me role off my back!

Until next time!


Putting myself on time out.

Happy Monday! Hope everyone had as fantastic a weekend as I did!

After a CRAZY work week I crashed out at about 9:30 on Friday night.

Saturday morning I hit the gym and the boys had Karate and Baseball.

I spent the rest of the day/night with my bestie Camille. We both recently turned 25 again for the tenth time. To celebrate we had a girl’s staycation. This was only about the fourth time in 7 years that I spent a night away from all of my boys. If I’ve ever gone away overnight it’s been with my husband. I’ve always had so much mom guilt about leaving them. But let me tell you, this weekend was glorious.

We grabbed lunch:

The Calexxican from Naked Cafe

Then Massages and Pedis:

And movies/ snacks/  room service at a cute boutique hotel nearby:

The perfect day! And it was a great opportunity for my husband to have some quality time with the boys. They had a beach picnic at the cliffs:


Sunday afternoon was spent at the baseball field and getting ready for the coming week. Have you ever taken a mom “time out?” I think I could get used to it!

Until next time,




24 Hour Training Experience (Weeks 1 and 2)

About a month ago I had mentioned that I was meeting with the fitness director at my local 24 Hour Fitness to talk about hiring a trainer.


Quite frankly, I have never been incredibly impressed with 24 Hour. It always seemed like such a big impersonal/ corporate machine so I didn’t have high hopes when I met with Kevin.

I have never been known to mince words, and over the phone I made it very clear to him that this was not my first trip to the trainer rodeo.

At our meeting Kevin sat down with me to talk for a good half an hour. We had this amazing conversation about my past struggles with dieting, my personality, my goals, and what I wanted to get out of training. I’m not kidding when I say it was like a glorious cathartic therapy session. I felt like he really got me, and I didn’t want to stop gabbing!

The second half hour he assessed my current fitness level, and immediately picked up on some form and flexibility issues I’ve been dealing with. We talked about scheduling, and who from his team would be a good a fit.

About a week later I met with my new trainer Elaine. She was adorable without being cheesy, with a little sass, and I could tell immediately that we would hit it off.

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At our first meeting she took my weight and measurements and did a short circuit that was pretty intense. I am really excited to see my progress. We will be meeting 3-4 times a week for the next 6 weeks and she will be helping me with my nutrition.

Week 1:

We have been doing a ton of HIIT, strength, and lots of heart pumping activities like burpees, mountain climbers, and sprints in between weight sets. I’m really feeling her style, but I haven’t made many changes so far this week in the nutrition department. Baby steps. Oh, and I am SO sore I literally can barely sit down to pee!

Week 2:

I am definitely feeling stronger and that is an awesome feeling. I am tracking what I am eating, sorta. This is the first time I’ve basically just tried to wing it with the nutrition logging into MyFitness Pal. It’s not working. Mama needs structure.

Elaine is working on a meal plan for me. She wants me to give her 1 month of following the plan.That’s going to be tough!  We took my measurements again and I am down 2% body fat but the scale IS NOT moving. So while I am getting stronger, and yes muscle weighs more than fat, my jeans are still tight and that ain’t okay.

Over the next two weeks I will try my best to follow her meal plan, and be back with another update, and hopefully be a few pounds lighter!

Until next time.




Finding My Voice

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Good morning! I hope you had a fabulous weekend. I cannot believe it is already April! This year is flying by!

Yesterday marked 2 years since my son got sick (He’s perfectly healthy now!) and a series of events to follow that led us into the worst 18 months of our lives. It was horrific, and at some points I didn’t think I would be able to make it through.


But we fought through and are now in a better place than we have ever been. I am learning to enjoy life more, and not take anything for granted. This awakening is what inspired my blog, so I wanted to explain in a little ore depth where I am coming from.

I don’t know quite yet want I want to say in the long term, what exact direction this little blog is going in. I don’t have some grandiose master plan.

I’ve never been one to follow a specific path.

I just want a place to share my life, and my life is all over the place!

Yes, diet and exercise are a huge part of my life. Not because I have ANY professional training in either realm. It’s more because I am mother of 2 kids in her mid 30’s and I really want to be healthy for them, lose about 30lbs and get toned and sexier. I want that light bulb to go off, and all of a sudden I am balls to the wall with my diet and exercise. And I thought maybe if I shared my journey it would light a fire under my ass to actually do it.

But guess what?

I am a teacher, daughter, and dog mom, trying to navigate raising 2 crazy boys, while maintaining my identity as a wife and a friend. I am also a chocaholic, shopaholic, shoe obsessed, culinary school drop out.

I find writing this blog extremely fun and cathartic, and I enjoy writing very much.

So yes, one day I may be talking about my workouts and eating plans, and in the next breath showing off my mad Pinterest skills at my kid’s party.

If it’s going on in my life, or inside my head, good or bad, I will most likely put it out there.

I love to share. In fact, believe it or not, I have been known to overshare. 🙂 I am documenting with you my personal journey to find health, happiness, wellness, and balance in this crazy life. And I am having a little fun along the way. And I really hope you enjoy reading it!

Until next time.


Finding That Sweet Spot.

Without getting into a sob story, 2014 and 2015 were shit years.

Basically, if something bad could happen, it did.

This is one of the main reasons I started this blog. 2016 was going to be my year. I know, today is March 1, but you get the point. I knew that this year I needed to make changes in almost every facet of my life. I would love to say that I had some sort of lightbulb moment of clarity that would guide me on the path to love, light, and zen.

But this is me we are talking about, and this was my moment:


In true Betsy fashion, I was plugging along, burning the candle at both ends when suddenly, I could barely see. It was like there were little lightning bolts dancing around in my eyes. Because I am a neurotic Jew, I of course thought I was having a stroke and was going to die.

I spent the entire day in the ER, and after a battery of tests, the doctors determined that I was suffering from a specific type of Migraine Headache. The point of all this?

This migraine, and the 3 I have had since, were all triggered by stress. I needed to chillax!

I started really taking stock of my life, and along with needing to make some dietary and exercise changes, I realized that I was also not nourishing some very important relationships in my life.

So along with trying to eat better and exercise more, I have been letting loose a bit on the weekends.I am trying to be more social.

I have strong hermit like tendencies.

Over the past few months I have made some amazing memories with my girlfriends. I also feel like my husband and I have finally found our social “niche.”

The downside to this fun is the toll it takes on my waistline.

Yes, I can be that friend who does coffee and gym dates. But I want to have dessert and a drink too!IMG_0793

This is a huge year of changes for me, and I need to learn how to balance things and find that sweet spot. I want to have more fun, and allow myself a few drinks, just not a few drinks, some cake, and a huge dinner three times in one week!

The search for balance continues.

Until next time.



Down But Not Out.


I created this blog and Instagram account to hold myself accountable, and to share my journey as I try to lose the flab. I’ve made some positive changes over the past month or so, up until last week.

It basically started over the long weekend. We went to visit family in Los Angeles, then 2 days at Disneyland, and to top it of, my son came down with a horrible case of the stomach flu. I can still see him, walking into my room, carrying his barf bowl, full and sloshing back and forth, to let me know he puked again. Clearly I’ve overindulged, especially considering somebody asked me if I was pregnant at yoga on Saturday.

So here’s the plan:

(Disclaimer: I am in NO way a nutrition or diet professional! I have zero official background in the matter besides being on a diet since I was 12. These are solely my opinions and interpretations.)

Over the next few weeks my intentions are to log everything I put into my pie hole into MyFitness Pal, and stick to lots of  veggies, protein, and healthy carbs and fats. At least those are my intentions.

It’s very hard for me to “Trust the Process” considering I have been on a diet since I was 12 and I have a terrible relationship with food.

Quite frankly there’s a part of me that just wants to get some diet pills and call it a day. The thing is, besides them being terrible for you, A) They make me a raging bitch, and B) It’s not the best example for my kids to see me all hopped up on diet pills.

Maybe I will tattoo “Trust the Process” on my arm to remind me that Rome wasn’t built in a day.

I bought a pack of training sessions at the gym and am meeting with the fitness manager today to talk about finding a trainer who is the right “fit” for me. In other words, I don’t want the newest trainer who needs to fill his calendar, or the super hot skinny girl who decided to workout one day and all of a sudden has a six pack. I need a former fatty who got ripped!

Any other workout suggestions in the San Diego area greatly appreciated!

So, to recap I am going to try to exercise, eat as many whole, unprocessed foods as possible, and not stuff down my feelings with chocolate and online shopping.

Revolutionary, I know.

Meh, maybe just not the chocolate.IMG_0729 (Friday night of my dreams)

It’s crunch time bitches!

Until next time.



The Downside to Being Flabulous


Today I’m keeping it real. As I was checking into yoga this morning, the woman at the front desk said to me:

“There are two other pregnant women in class today.”

A little startled, I looked at her and said,

“Oh, I am not pregnant, clearly just fat.” and walked off.

I then proceeded to walk into the locker room to cry.

I thought, this bitch really f’ed up my yoga practice today. I know I carry my weight around my mid section, but do I really look pregnant?! I had a very hard time clearing my head and not thinking about it in class. It never feels good to be told you look a certain way, that you perceive to be negative. By tomorrow I’m sure I’ll be over it, but be warned, I will definitely be harping on this to my husband, girlfriends, and basically anyone who will listen for the rest of the day.

But here’s the thing. First of all, she probably feels like a HUGE asshole, as she should! This was evident when I could see her hiding in the office as I walked out of class. People make mistakes.

Secondly, I am going to do my best to channel this into a positive, and push myself even harder to work towards my goal of losing my stomach flab.

And if all else fails, I’m getting a tummy tuck.

Until next time.