And That’s a Wrap on Summer (Thank F’ing God!)

“The time has come for the little ones to head back to school, I am so sad that this summer is over!” Said No Mom EVER.

I remember as the school year was ending in June talking to some mommies who were like, I can’t wait for summer! We get to sleep in and spends lazy days at home. Listening to that I thought my head would explode. Don’t get me wrong, props to these mom’s whose children who can sleep past six and play happily together without trying to kill each other within 5 minutes. But that ain’t my house.

When I think of Summer I think about the fact my otherwise well-behaved kiddos become Ipad hungry cranky little trolls who live to drive me crazy. Then there’s camp. Nothing like driving all over the city paying an ungodly amount of money to hear my children complain about wanting to stay home. Hey A-holes, mama’s gotta go to work!

Ok, Ok, it really was a fun summer.

We snuck in a fun staycation at the beach for Max’s birthday, spent a lot of time with friends, and made it to Disneyland twice. We even managed a little time relaxing.

We did find some time to be lazy!
And quite honestly the Summer really did fly by and I am not quite sure that I am ready to see my baby march off to Kindergarten tomorrow.

But I am ready to get back to our routine. All the summer fun definitely has its price. Especially on my pant size. Will probably have to wear those Maxi dresses and yoga pants a little longer before I switch to jeans and sweaters. Thank god it’s still hot as balls in San Diego.

It is such a dichotomy really. I love those boys so much sometimes I think my heart will explode. Other times they literally try my patience to the nth degree. I love being their mommy, it’s my world but I need Betsy time. I need routine. I need order. I guess it’s a fair trade though. 9 months on, 3 months off. I can handle that. And I know sooner than later they will need me less, and I will need them more. Time truly does fly.

I need routine. I need order.

I guess it’s a fair trade though. 9 months on, 3 months off. I can handle that. And I know sooner than later they will need me less, and I will need them more. Time truly does fly.

Sigh.

Anywho, we wrapped the holiday weekend up with a pool party at my mom’s house, today is school orientation, and Wednesday their first day! (F’ing FINALLY!)

Time to start thinking about apple picking, candy corn, and Halloween costumes, ya feel me?

xoxo

Betsy

Vegas, We Meet Again

I think this is my first true photo bombing!

Hey hey hey! Happy Monday! How was your weekend?

We just got back from Las Vegas for the PAC12 college basketball tournament. It was a total whirlwind 48 hours! Last year I posted what it was like visiting Vegas as a mom in her thirties (you can read it here) as opposed to a college student or a bachelorette. I have to say I prefer visiting Vegas with a slightly more sober lense. Don’t get me wrong, I did enjoy a few cocktails, but I wasn’t stumbling back from Drai’s at 5 am mascara raccoon eyes and my shoes in my hand (not that that has ever happened when I was younger

I have to say I prefer visiting Vegas with a slightly more sober lens. Don’t get me wrong, I did enjoy a few cocktails, but I wasn’t stumbling back from Drai’s at 5 am mascara raccoon eyes and my shoes in my hand (not that that has ever happened when I was younger ??) I digress.

I want to share a few highlights from this year’s trip with you today:

First and foremost, hanging with these guys all weekend!

In front of the Bellagio fountains.

We haven’t seen them since they moved to Tucson around Christmas time, and it was a much-needed bromance/ bestie visit.

The Caviar Bar at the Bellagio:

my husband LOVES caviar. I was always kinda icked out by the idea of eating fish eggs. Let me tell you, with all the accouterments (and a cocktail) it is ?.

This breakfast:

Eggs Benedict of my dreams.

Mon Ami Gabi is Gina’s favorite Vegas brunch stop and last year we weren’t able to make it. The food was excellent. The French fries, probably the best I’ve ever had. I really can’t pass up on eggs benedict, my Achilles heel. Definitely a place worth checking out when in Vegas.

Blowouts and Dirty Shirley Temples:

Dry Bar Las Vegas

There is a fairly new Drybar inside the Miracle Mile shops in Planet Hollywood, which was right across the street from our hotel. Only in Vegas does Drybar have a  DJ spinning music and a bartender at your fingertips. I love nothing more than having someone else wash and blow dry my hair. Blowouts are not something I indulge in regularly, but when in Vegas right?

Basketball:

At the game.

Although my beloved Bruins did not make it to the championship game this year I will always love watching live basketball, and the fans. I love die-hard college sports fans. Not often nowadays can you turn around and hug it out with a complete stranger simply because you share a love for the same team. So refreshing to see that kind of kinship out of complete strangers. It gives me all the feels.

The best part of my trip by far would have to be;

Time with this guy:

My Love.

 Weekends like this are an excellent reminder of the time we spent as a couple before the kiddos were around. There will come a time when it will just be the two of us in the house. I don’t want to look at my husband in 15 years and say, hey, now what?

Personally, the trip was a great opportunity for me to refocus and re-center. Getting away from reality for just a few days clears my mind of those everyday little things that can seem so big at the moment.

Friends, food, basketball, and booze. I would say that all in all, it was a fantastic weekend.

Did you do anything fun this weekend? How do you relax and recharge?

Now on to preparing for my Wy man’s fifth birthday!

Talk to you soon! xoxo

Betsy

What you believe? What do you have faith in?

Happy Monday! I hope you all had a fantastic weekend. We got to spend a lot of time together as a family, which is always my favorite.

 

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Kid’s Snacks

Friday night I hosted Mommy Happy Hour. Every month or so during the school year a few of us moms take turns hosting a happy hour where the kiddos run around and play while the mommies sip vino and catch up. It’s glorious, especially when you hit that sweet spot where all of the kiddos get along, and you don’t spend the entire time stopping them from beating each other to a pulp.
Saturday was my niece’s birthday party:

 

Wyatt and Elmo
Wyatt and Elmo

and then we played tourist around Old Town San Diego (one of my favorite spots) and met up with some friends for dinner.

 

Gina and I and Margaritas
Gina and I and Margaritas

And of course, in this house Sunday is for football and brunch no matter how many times the Chargers break our hearts.

Did you do anything fun this weekend?

 

Brunching
Brunching

I wanted to share with you something that’s been on my mind. On Friday took a yoga class. It was a restorative yoga class that focused on stretching and meditation. The instructor led us through a thoughtfulness exercise that I wanted to share with you because it really hit home with me and I can’t stop thinking about it.

 

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Yoga

She first asked us: “What do you believe in?” and a few minutes later followed it up by asking “What do you have faith in?”

Lying, eyes closed on the mat wracking my brain, I had a very hard time coming up with any sort of answer. I’ve never been a very spiritual person but c’mon! I had nothing! Even as I write this I cannot come up with a solid set of beliefs or faith in something.

I very rarely take the time to stop and be mindful of my life, the past, my experiences. I tend to just keep pushing through, some days just trying to keep my head above water.

A a lot of things have changed in my life over the past 2 years and lately, I think I have been a bit emotionally paralyzed by all of it. I don’t tend to take the time to process the hows or why’s in life. I just go go go. As we wind down on 2016 my goal is to be more mindful of why things came together or undone as they have. What brought me to where I am right now, and why? What do I believe and have faith in? Am I where I need to be?

Maybe I should first look in the mirror and ask if I have enough faith in me?

So I ask you friends: What do you believe in? What do you have faith in?

Until next time. xoxo
Betsy

My love/hate relationship with Electronics.

 

 

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Our New Board Games

 

 

This is such a double edged sword. On the one hand who doesn’t want to sleep in an extra hour on the weekends? Make dinner? Or God forbid shower in peace? On the flip side these electronics turn my otherwise adorable children into venom spewing trolls.

In our house during school time we have pretty strict electronic rules. No devices Monday-Friday, except for TV while I make dinner or am trying to get dressed. On the weekends we allow 1 hour of iPad and 1 hour of Xbox time a day (which lets be honest, never happens). I’ve starting using the kitchen timer to monitor their useage though.

And this weekend was ROUGH! I mean, I love my kids. They are my world. My everything. That said some times they make me mental. We had a pretty low key weekend with a lot of time at home. My husband and I didn’t feel well so keeping the kids happy and entertained was exhausting. This was the perfect weekend to throw the ipads and Xbox at them. But they get so mean, and as of this morning, the ipads and xbox controls are hidden, aaaaaand it is board game city until further notice.

The other issue is they are off all next week for Thanksgiving break, and I have work to do and Thanksgiving for 30 to prepare for, so who is really being punished here. I hate to say that but it’s true.

Even on our recent vacation to San Francisco, my youngest wanted nothing but to sit in the hotel room and play on his iPad. Then again, when you are trying to enjoy a meal, and the kids are finished, it is so easy to slip them your phone while you get a moment to enjoy your food.

I know I am not the only mom out there who deals with this. The real question is at what point do you risk your sanity to teach them a lesson? Or when is it ok to let them turn their brains to mush on the Xbox?

Ugh. Our kids live pretty scheduled lives with soccer, karate, baseball, or swim after school, and they definitely need down time. The thing is they get so cranky when they have too much screen time.

What are your best tips for eliminating/ managing screen time with the kiddos?

Until next time,

Betsy

Changing Things Up

Hey friends! How are you? I hope you had a wonderful weekend. Ours was low key and fun. We had a cousin’s birthday party on Saturday, followed by some epic ramen for dinner.

On Sunday the hubs and I got in a little brunch/ kayaking date along the bay while my bestie Camille watched the boys.

 

As you may notice I have made some changes to this little blog. I wanted to share with you why.

While I love talking about my struggles as a fatty, and everyone’s feedback has been so amazing and positive, I have found the experience personally quite difficult. I feel that i’m focused obsessed with my weight and getting in shape and putting way too much pressure on myself. In my experience when I am trying to lose weight, the more I talk and obsess about it, the less I actually make better choices but instead rationalize that I “deserve” this cheat meal day week. It becomes a whole issue of what I can’t eat instead of making healthier decisions. So I am going to continue on my diet and fitness journey but keep those successes and failures a little closer to the vest.

 

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Hehe

 

Secondly, there is SO much I want to share with you and I felt that focusing solely on diet kept me from unleashing all of my true greatness 🙂 For those of you who know me personally, you know what a large part entertaining, cooking, and family play in my life. I want to incorporate these parts of my life to into the blog as well, and I look forward to sharing my passions with you!

Stay tuned for lots of exciting things to come!

Until next time,

Betsy

xoxo

One for You One to Give Giveaway!

Hey Friends! It’s Monday!!!! I hope you had a relaxing weekend. We hung around the house all weekend, and it was glorious. Around mid week we realized that we really didn’t have much going on, and instead of making plans we decided it would just be nice to lay low and hang around the house. Sometimes you just need a little re charge time with the fam bam.

This morning I am super excited to share an awesome giveaway with you! In light of yesterday’s tragedy, this giveaway couldn’t have come at a better time. This world could use more kindness.

 

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One For You One To Give

 

My friends at One for You One to Give sent me two gorgeous sets of bracelets to giveaway. I will be giving one pair away from the blog and one from Instagram.

Let me tell you a little about them. The concept of the company was born out of the genuine passion to give back and pass along kindness. All bracelets and jewelry come in pairs with the intention that you keep one and give another to someone special.

In the spirit of giving the company gives 10% of their proceeds to benefit “Best Freinds Animal Society,” which has also rescued 4 million pets across America to date.

All of the bracelets are designed in the United States, made with real gemstones, and are available for wholesale or retail. Check them out!

In order to win a pair of bracelets you must do the following:

  1. Follow me on Instagram @flabbutfab
  2. Follow @oneforyouonetogive on Instagram
  3. Comment below on who you would give your bracelet to share to and why.

Contest will end Friday June 17 and I will ship the bracelets the following Monday to the 2 winners!

San Diego International Boat Show + Giveaway!

Good morning friends! It’s almost the weekend!

My kiddos get out of school next week and I have been scrambling to figure out what they are going to do for the next 12 weeks. For me it’s a delicate balance of spending time exploring with the kiddos, and some fun camps for them so I can still get some work done and make sure they aren’t in front of their ipads all day. That has NEVER happened, I swear! ; ) There is just so much to do in San Diego normally, and during the summer months the fun seems to just be amped up.

 

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San Diego Boat Show

 

One of the cool activities this gorgeous city has to offer is the San Diego Boat Show. I know, you are probably thinking I don’t need another yacht, so why do I need to go to a boat show? Well here are the top 5 reasons, besides me being there which should be reason enough:

  1. It’s over Father’s Day weekend making it a great family activity!
  2. The Boat Show is under new ownership, and there are so many cool activities planned including stand up paddleboarding, kayaking, and live entertainment.
  3. Boaters can sharpen their skills at workshops and seminars presented by experts, educators, and adventurers.
  4. The Food and Drinks! There will be a variety of popular food trucks, a floating Tiki Bar, and an Anchors and Ale Beer Garden.
  5. You can win a family 4 pack of tickets and go for FREE right here, a $60 value!

Come out and say hi!

The  Giveaway :

The giveaway will run for 1 week starting today and closing on June 9.

The winner will be announced on Friday, June 9!

To enter, just leave a comment below about why you want to go to the San Diego Boat Show!

Show Details:

When: Thursday through Sunday, June 16-19, 2016

Where: Spanish Landing Park, East.

Admission: $15- Adults (16 years and older), Children under 12 are free.

www.SanDiegoInternationalBoatshow.com

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Don’t forget to enter to win tickets!

Until next time!
Betsy

 

Memorial Day Weekend Happenings. 

Hey guys! Happy Tuesday! I seriously feel like I’ve been hit by a bus! I don’t know about you, but whenever we have a Monday holiday I am always totally off kilter for the rest of the week.

On Saturday we ran some errands, had a birthday party to go to, and in preparation for a family wedding on Sunday, I had this gem come to my house. She does an awesome job, and you literally walk out your door, get a tan, and go back inside. Brilliant! Plus the club beats bumping from the bus is an added bonus.

 

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Spray Tan Bus

 

Sunday morning I got my ass whooped at a boot camp class, and then grabbed coffee with a girlfriend. I think it’s really important to carve out time with my girlfriends. It reminds me that I am more than a mommy! Then I got to spend the rest of the day getting glammed for the wedding. It takes a LOT of work to clean me up!

Yesterday was very slow going (imagine the sloth from Zootopia) that was me yesterday. I was so tired from the wedding bonanza, and the little sleep we got that night. I was able to make it out of the house for food, of course and to hit up the grocery store. Our friends came over for dinner and I made tomato basil soup and a make your own grilled cheese bar. Yummy! Dinner turned out really well. I will have the soup recipe and details up on the blog soon.

Also, keep your eye out this week for my first Giveaway on the blog!

Woohoo! I’m legit now!

Until next time,

Betsy

My little A-ha!

Happy Monday!

Said no one ever!

I hope you had a great weekend! I wanted to share our weekend, and a little A-ha moment I had.

It seems like we eat out every meal but breakfast on the weekends, so I wanted to have a nice home cooked dinner on Friday. I made spaghetti and meatballs, and a spaghetti squash for myself. It was REALLY good. I can’t wait to share this recipe with you all this week!

Saturday morning we hit the ground running! 8:00am Baseball game, 10:00 Cardio session, and a 12:00pm Tball game. The little guy couldn’t quite hang by the end!

Every year, our kids’ school has a fundraiser and auction. One of the the auction packages was a tour of our local fire department, and dinner with the fire men. I was a little disappointed when it turned out to be a family event, and the “firemen” weren’t really strippers, but I guess this was fun too : )

Just kidding! The kids had the time of their lives!

They made us the traditional San Diego Fire Department meal; a taco salad.

And let me tell you, it was SO good. I will definitely be making this for the family in the future! They grilled up hot dogs for the kiddos.

Sunday we had a birthday party, and some errands to run. Just so you know, I did NOT touch 1 single donut. And can we take a minute and look at these balloons. I mean, is this guy some sort of balloon wizard?  I’m in total awe, and a maybe little freaked out by that creepy face on Luke Skywalker.

This weekend was jam packed with kid’s activities, and a few weeks ago I would have easily blown of the gym, and my diet (those donuts!) because it would be such an easy excuse. But here’s the weirdest thing.

I didn’t and I WANTED to go to the gym!

I was actually looking forward to it and made sure to carve out time for it this weekend. Who am I?

I may or may not have mentioned to everyone at tball:  “Yea, I just worked out.”

I was so proud of myself! I am taking this journey one day at a time, and today I feel great!

Until next time.

Betsy

Doing Disneyland Flabulously

Over the long weekend we made a last minute decision to head up to Disneyland for a few days. We have a love/hate relationship with Disneyland. In our minds we picture our happy children frolicking through Tomorrowland singing our praises and thanking us profusely for spending way too much money on tickets and a hotel. In reality it’s almost always hot as balls, the kids are either complaining, fighting, or generally pissed, and my husband and I basically want to shoot ourselves. That said, we still go several times a year because we are clearly gluttons for punishment. I wanted to share my top tips and suggestions to make your next trip flabulous.

  1. Do not bring your children along.IMG_0329
  2. Pack snacks because Disneyland does allow outside food and drinks. Also, if you weren’t able to find a hotel deal that includes breakfast (Always check online for AAA discounts!), pack breakfast. It will keep the early risers happy, if you decided to bring them along, and you will save lots of $$$$ and time eating in your room.
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  3. Look cute but be comfortable. Wear big sunglasses so you can avoid makeup, stylish but comfy tennis shoes, and always carry a crossbody bag so your hands are free for snacks, and to pick up lazy children.
  4. Bring a stroller, even if you don’t have children. Seriously they are the best. You can lug all of your crap in them, carry drinks, push the pesky children and there’s kind of an unspoken agreement that nobody steals from a parked stroller because it’s Disneyland and that would be the worst Karma ever.                                                   ***Note to those who wear fitness trackers like the Fitbit. When you’re pushing a stroller with both hands the tracker won’t count your steps because it cannot sense your movement. Boo!***IMG_0471
  5. Double check what time the park opens and arrive early! The sooner you arrive the more rides you can enjoy, and the park really starts to fill up after lunch so if you get there when they open you can get way more done.  And don’t forget to utilize the Fast Pass Program!IMG_0467
  6. Lastly, treat yo self! It’s Disneyland for Christ sake! No, don’t eat every Mickey shaped pretzel, ice cream bar, and waffle in sight, but you are walking all day in the miserable heat with whining children so pick one thing to splurge on.(I would basically choose a rice crispy treat over pretty much anything, ever. Especially one with chocolate on it.)

Until next time! -Betsy